Friday, July 27, 2012

The End Goals

Pretend that you woke up tomorrow and twenty years had passed.  Your child(ren) are now grown.  After all those years of teaching and loving them, what qualities do you hope they possess?   Is there something very important to you that you wish to pass on to your little ones?

For me, I would like my children to be TEACHABLE when they are grown; willing and open to learn whatever comes their way in this changing world, and to be OPTIMISTIC; mind over matter is a powerful thing.  Like any mother, I want my children to have many positive qualities, but I asked a fellow group of child bloggers to give me just two qualities they hope to see in their children someday. The collective results reflect what's really important when it comes to raising our kids.

KIND and INNOVATIVE Kids Stuff World
COMPASSIONATE and INDEPENDENT The Good Long Road  
FREE and CURIOUS Whimsical Kids Canvas             
GENEROUS and FULFILLED Boy Mama Teacher Mama  
HONEST and HAPPY with herself as a person Putti's World
KIND and CURIOUS Pleasantest Thing 
THOUGHTFUL and UNIQUE The Golden Gleam
EMPATHETIC and HAPPY Playdough to Plato
COMPASSIONATE and CREATIVE Happy Whimsical Hearts
INTEGRITY and JOY Mommy and Me Book Club

COMPASSIONATE and FULFILLED Love Play and Learn
CREATIVE and COMPASSIONATE  Creative Family Fun
HONEST, TRUSTWORTHY, and COMPASSIONATE Time for Play
EMPATHETIC and HAPPY Kitchen Counter Chronicles
CONTENT and FULFILLED The Iowa Farmer’s Wife
COMPASSIONATE and RELIABLE Growing a Jeweled Rose
CARING and HONEST Momma’s Fun World
INDEPENDENT and INQUISITIVE 52 Brand New
SELFLESS and TRUSTWORTHY Train Up a Child
COMPASSIONATE and COURAGEOUS Creative with Kids

COMPASSION and FAITH Crayon Freckles
LOVING and CREATIVE Inspiration Laboratories
RESPONSIBLE and HAPPY Living at the Whitehead's Zoo
THEMSELVES and CONTENT Domestic Goddesque
SELF ASSURED and THOUGHTFUL Taming the Goblin
HAPPY and LOVING Rainy Day Mum
CALM and CONFIDENT A Little Learning For Two
KIND and FUN Red Ted Art
HAPPY and HEALTHY Mollymoo
EMPATHETIC and HAPPY Learn with Play at Home

I hope my child will be FREE to live the way she likes! Angeliquefelix.com
LOVING and RESPECTFUL Famiglia and Seoul
COMPASSIONATE and COURAGEOUS Jdaniel4s Mom
FRIENDLY and CREATIVE Two Big Two Little
KIND and CREATIVE Mama Pea Pod
COMPASSIONATE and CREATIVE Play Dr Mom
COURAGEOUS and INVENTIVE Busy Kids Happy Mom
OPEN MINDED and INQUISITIVE Sense of Wonder
CREATIVE and CONFIDENT Here Come the Girls
HONEST, ALTRUISTIC, COMPASSIONATE, and INQUISITIVE Multiple Mummy
GENTLE with others, but BOLD in endeavors. Word Play House
CURIOSITY and PATIENCE (They’ll have kids by that time, so they’ll need patience)  KC Edventures

What's noteworthy in this list is what isn't included! No one identified qualities such as genius or affluence.  These parents just want their children to be good to themselves and to others once they are grown.  These are end goals, the things that we should focus on and try to remember when we begin to worry too much about temporary goals, such as how many letters they know, or their ability to identify colors.  These blogs reflect their end goals through the activities and lessons learned that they choose to write about, not always explicitly, but in a way that draws us to why we read them, because we all want our children to grow up with admirable qualities.




    

9 comments:

  1. What a wonderful post! It's always good to have a bigger perspective as we go so quickly through these precious moments with our young kids! Thanks for including us!

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    1. Thank you! I feel forward thinking is part of our parenting process!

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  2. I love this post. It's fun to see how all of us answered differently --- but so many of us added something about creativity in there too! Thank you for including us!

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    1. This what always happens, when I ask this question. It's so neat to see the results every time. With all the different ways we go about raising our children, we want many of the same things.

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  3. What a great reminder to keep those end goals in mind as we are raising our little ones. I just love the picture at the end ~ and the quote! Thanks for including us!

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  4. what a great message. I love this - I'm featuring it on The Sunday Parenting Party this weekend.

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